what is that count in a erotica ?

What is that count in a Erotica? That counds in a such holy seremony, is the particiaption of both partners with spirit , soul and body at fool scale action. Does not mater what you will say or do, but how you will say it and how you will handle such a sensitive moment, because any negative of a coment or act, may harm feeling. I say that, because naked body is an open naked soul and mind. That means : women and men durring erotica are defendless and full unprotected. One moment of negative coment or insult, may last years to be heal or never.
Humor on sexual activity if it is honest and with gentle handle gives smiles and can give more happiness. Erotica moment is a holy ceremony between two human beings , because create unity and divine soul elevation. Some times a sexual activity for just lust pleasures ( just fuck for fun ) are also welcome even if it is not devine unity ( but there is a common free will without force among participants in a formation of 1 to 1 or group sex) but it is much better than any other brutal activity such as a killing or cause any other major harm by destroy or ruin lives financilay, or material property destruction or any insult or ruthless assalt. Do sex not a war.